Where I come from, and in the environment I have seen myself, being gifted seems to be the normal thing. People get gifts on their birthdays, wedding ceremonies, and lots more. And as a result of this, some people make it seems like people are entitled to them or it's a must to gift them something during these celebrations.
To me It's out of place when someone feels bad or angry about who didn't gift them something on their birthday or their wedding day, it's so out of place. People do the giving as a sign of love, care and some do it to show they are happy with your existence or your new home and beginning, it's not because they are entitled to you or that you did something for them and in return, they are showing the favor back, no! although a few people do it for that reasons too but not everyone.
I grew up in an environment (my home) where you need to work for something to get something. There was no room for laziness and expecting anything tangible. Whatever I needed or wanted was either worked for or given by my parents. I had no friends who could afford most of the things I needed at that time so I was always contented with what my parents gave me or I worked for what I wanted.
I had friends whose uncles, aunties, boyfriends, etc got them most of the things or gifts I had to sweat before getting. They did it with ease as if it was nothing, I didn't envy them in any way to be very honest, I mean I tend to appreciate whatever it is I worked my ass out for than random gifts from people but don't quote me wrong, I appreciate and value the things people give to me as much too.
However, there is so much pride that comes with having or enjoying what you worked hard for. This has always been my belief, I take so much pride and pleasure in things I achieve myself or on my own.
My Little Pride
I call it little because comparing it to the rest of the things I am proud of, this might seems very little or the least to other people out there but well, you can never relate if you haven't been there.
- I Bought My First Laptop With My Money
Getting a PC is the last thing I could have thought I would have at my age then. I never would have believed I would earn the money that could give me a phone let alone a PC so when I was told I could buy a London/fairly used PC with the money I earned, I was so happy, I never believed it until my boss called the laptop vendor to come to my workplace to discuss it.
- Got A New Phone Right After
Everything seemed to be working well for me, few months after I got the PC, I became even more serious with my work until it fetched me another good amount to buy myself a good phone. I was suffering with an old android phone passed down by my dad. I never had a good phone packaged or gifted to me by anyone. So my dream of finally having a good phone came through with my sweat and hard work. It wasn't gifted by anyone, I worked for it and this I am very proud of.
The things I thought would take a little longer to come or earnestly prayed for a kind person to gift me came earlier than I expected them and it came from my pocket, my work, and my sweat. I couldn't have been more proud than I felt the moment I realized that anything I ever wanted in this life can be gotten if I worked for it.
And I have always been a believer in working for the things I need. There is a different kind of feeling about spending the money you worked for. And forever, I will always be proud of what my little tender hands could do at that age and will continue doing even as I grow older.
If you are reading this, do you mind sharing a few things that you are proud of as a person too? I will be glad to read your mind on this too.
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24 September 2022
